"There are no norms. All people are exceptions to a rule that doesn’t exist."
So, these are only a FEW of the tweets that were aimed towards me, for openly being a female with armpit hair. There are millions more that I may or may not post. But for now, let’s go ahead and review this here folks.
Does a dozen teenagers who have been brainwashed by our patriarchal, misogynistic society telling me that I’m a disgusting hairy ape hurt my feelings? Absolutely not. I’m obviously very proud to display my body and my personal choices that go against our cruel standards for women.
But what does make me sad, is that this is what we are teaching our youth. These are the real, raw beliefs of young people today in regards to women, and what they can and cannot do with their bodies.
They truly believe in their minds that it is ‘unacceptable’ and ‘disgusting’ for a woman to make the choice to not shave. What’s even more sad to me is that the people agreeing with this boy were ALL FEMALE. Is this kind of bias, this kind of internalized hatred for womens bodies & choices really what we want to continue to teach them? This is probably the first time they have seen a woman who doesn’t take a razor and shave off what naturally grows on her body, and they’re legitimately angry to the point where they can personally attack someone they don’t even know about their body. They are angry to the point where it’s almost as if they feel personally insulted that a girl does not shave. Let’s stop and think: why would they feel this angry about a personal choice that is so very insignificant? That has no effect on our health, hygiene or well being?
Think back to this the next time you hear yourself or someone else saying 'women are equal' or ‘women aren’t discriminated against.’Because this is what we are teaching our young women. We are teaching them that your body is not okay, it is not okay to go against what society defines as ‘beautiful.’ It is not okay to be open about who you are, what you choose to do with your body that makes you most comfortable. It is not okay to make a choice that goes against the rules that society has set for us. That you are ‘psycho,’ an ape, disgusting, & that your choices that fit your comfort are not okay. This is the world we have created for women.
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bitches be trippin
"I surrender to the ocean, to the moon, to the stars, to the sun, to the earth. Bestowed by beauty all around me; I am humble. I respect life and promise to honour its gift. I will nourish my body and too my soul with the nutrients of love. I am where I am meant to be. I live in today, right now. I am present."
"I’m 42. The single most important thing I’ve learned so far is that who I am is perfectly OK.
So I don’t have the same takes on things that a lot of other guys do. I don’t grab at relationships with just anyone. Casual sex depresses me rather than excites me. No, I never wanted to go clubbing. I’m way too prone to want to help people. I’m just not aggressive. I’m really not good at remembering my own past.
All that adds up to lots of people thinking I’m some sort of alien. Why was I not out there being savagely ambitious, chasing drunk girls, stabbing colleagues in the back, getting really excited by football, surrounding myself with loud idiots, and all that sort of thing?
Because fuck that shit. That’s why.
It never was me. It will never be me. And that’s fine. Took me quite a while to accept that there was nothing wrong with being me.
As for about life guidance… If you want to know why, follow the money. Trust your intuition above all. Youth truly is beauty. Run away screaming from anyone who tells you what you are allowed to think. On the inside, everyone feels like a fraud. You cannot force help on people, all you can do is support them while they help themselves. She (or he) is out there, somewhere. Your body gets slowed, heavier, wrinklier — Gods, so quickly — but you’ll never actually feel older than you do today. There is beauty in everything. And, above all: Stay. Away. From. The. Assholes. You don’t deserve that abuse, and they’re not going to change."
"The fact that someone else loves you doesn’t rescue you from the project of loving yourself."